The very first thing I would do is ask questions (as you are doing). Research different flight schools in your area, interview prospective flight instructors to insure that your learning style and their teaching style mesh together. The cost for obtaining your prviate pilot license is going to vary based upon a number of factors including which school/instructor you use, the type of aircraft you choose to train in, and how long it takes you to become proficient in the private pilot maneuvers. Generally speaking, I would say that a PPL license will run you somewhere on the order of $3000-$6000 US starting in a 2 or 4 seat single engine piston aircraft. I won't say that having a spouse who is unsupportive of your flying endeavours will preclude you from obtaining your license. However, I will say that having a strong support group behind you does do wonders for your morale during those difficult times during the training process. I am a mentor in the Project Pilot program over at AOPA ([url]www.aopa.org[/url]). If you find yourself beginning lessons and need someone to bounce ideas off or lend general support, feel free to contact me.